Communication 34
Trud-Ma writes . . .
To me it is very it’s a pity, that I can in no way you help. I hope, they will here help you. Мне очень жаль, что ничем не могу Вам помочь. Надеюсь, Вам здесь помогут.
Pity . . . what would your pity do for a ‘me’? ‘I’ suppose ‘I’ should clue you in: Pity does nothing–absolutely nothing–for the person being pitied. However . . . it appears to do wonders for the person holding the thought: “I pity you.”
When you say, “I pity you’, already you have assumed a superior role over the person you are holding in contempt with your pity. You believe yourself one step above the pitied Other (or perhaps, a whole flight of stairs above the Other). Hence, the reason why ‘I’ attached a comment to your comment to read: Pity is a condition of the mind (obviously your mind at the write of your comment).
I pity no one . . . ‘I’ would not dare into such a thought to describe the Other. And it is not the case that daring not to engage in such a thought has anything to do with the Other at all.
When you hold a thought of pity, you are engaging in a condition of mind . . . but there is more to it than simply that.
You see . . . The same can be said if you were to hold a thought of anger, jealousy, irritation, hatred . . . towards the Other. Any negative thought within which ‘you’ become ‘in’volved has a tendency to lend itself to an identification with and to negative emotions. Simply put: Your pity does nothing for anyone, but it does plenty to ‘you’.
At most . . . it strokes an ego. Thus allowing the ‘who-you-think-you-are’ to walk away feeling superior to the one you stooped to pity.
And . . . My dear, dear, Trud-Ma . . . acclaiming that “you can in no way help me” . . . what beliefs are you entertaining such that you would consider ‘I’ need help? Were you having thoughts of saving a ‘me’? If such is the case: Perhaps you should clue us all in: What is it that ‘I’ need be saved from?
‘I’ should only ask you, Trud-Ma, to observe the pity that you are holding and to look closely at what it does for you when you are holding it. Just look. Do not judge.
‘Peep-holes’ get attached and create identities to all sorts of senseless negative thoughts and negative emotions that absolutely do nothing but harm (especially for the ‘peep-hole’ holding onto the thought). Most importantly, they do not serve your better interests, and Trud-Ma ‘I’ want your better interests to be served.
One must help oneSelf.
February 24th, 2010 at 8:49 am
Continue rather well in the same spirit. (M.R. I cannot do to the otherwise. Thank-you for the ‘tune’ you sent!)
February 27th, 2010 at 3:13 am
Theme, but exists many nuances… they already discussed it repeatedly. By the way when you fast [infu] write the ultimate source (M.R. Welcome to the site JUDGE . . . you have just revealed your expectations regarding that which you decide to use to keep yourSelf entertained and how it should appear. Yes their are nuances and oldances repeatedly discussed . . . why do you think that is…..Did I put them in place simply because I knew you (in particular) would be annoyed? Or is it that what you read simply that which I decided to write? Or did it ‘show’ you your expectations of how things “should be”? Tell me judge . . . are you one of those, who gets to decide how things should be? Or is there a something else going on?)